KEP: Shift your focus

Relax. Breathe. It’s okay, you have time. Take it day by day and allow things to unfold as they’re meant to. Your life will happen according to its own timing, and you will become the person you’re meant to be.
— Nicole Addison
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We've all heard the saying, "comparison is the thief of joy." But it doesn't stop us (including me) from comparing ourselves to others. Social media has made comparison an epidemic. We typically see fancy vacations, beautiful people, achievements, amazing trips, groups of friends, and everyone else at their best. Its all to easy for our self esteem to go from 100 to 0 real quick (that's the Drake line right?) 😉  I'm sure you want to be happy when good things happen to others, but it can be tough not to weigh our lives against theirs. Comparing ourselves is a waste of time, and uses valuable energy while taking us nowhere. We end up in a negative downward spiral thinking what we've accomplished is suddenly worthless. But in reality just because someone else is successful, that doesn't take any value away from your hard work. So how to we keep ourselves from playing the comparison game? 


  1. Adjust your focus
  2. Be grateful
  3. There is only one you

99% of the photos I end up disliking when I'm editing are the ones that are out of focus. Unless it's cool or artsy of course. But most of the time I just get frustrated with myself! I get really frustrated when I realize my focus is on something unattractive in the background. I don't waste my time or energy on those photos because I don't like them and I know my clients wont. Just like editing, when I find myself comparing, my first step is to refocus.


It's important to focus on your own goals, your own achievements, and ways you can better yourself. My second way to combat comparison is to be grateful for what you have and what you've done! Sitting down and writing a list of my accomplishments or re-reading kind comments from clients helps me center and get back to business! Finally, I remember that I'm best when I'm myself. Not whats trending on Instagram, or what other people want me to be, or what I even unrealistically expect for myself! I am the only one of my kind. It's cheesy, but true. We're all human and comparing is bound to happen. But when we refocus, take time to be grateful, and embrace our unique strengths/gifts, we can go from comparing to conquering our person and professional lives. 

A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it, it just blooms.
— Zen Shin
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